Take responsibility for your own love life - your whole life for that matter. Stop making excuses and blaming others. The truth is that not all the good ones are straight, married, or otherwise taken. Not all men are creeps. You are not the only decent, single gay guy left out there.
Looking for love? Frustrated? It’s tough, I know. Listen, lighten up. Love is not open heart surgery even though it can feel like it! Life is what’s happening when your making plans and waiting for something to happen to you. Live it!
Have you ever noticed that those bitchy queens at the bar who are always ready to cut someone down are always single? Most people (homos included) like other people who are open, happy, and nice. If you’re an asshole and are wondering why you’re alone - well, assholes stink. Adjust your attitude.
This is my fantasy boyfriend Eran, like the country. He is a hottie-boom-bottie who brings me breakfast in bed and special treats in the shower. During the day he is a model, and at night he is my secret lover. Most important, Eran is a sweetie who treats me like ice cream on a hot summer day.
I did some research about what women (or men) want in a man, and identified these items below. Eran meets these all except for #2 (being a model is tough) and #9 (language barrier).
1. Good Leader on the dance floor who stays on the music.
2. Stable career, financial security.
3. Confident, self assured in the bedroom.
4. Direct eye contact; confident in public.
5. Neat, clean appearance and well groomed.
6. Sense of humor, quick-witted, intelligent.
7. Well-mannered i.e.; opens the door, introduces you to his friends, good table manners etc.
8. Physically fit, keeping weight under control.
9. Interested in what you have to say, a good listener.
10.Nice looking.
Who is your fantasy boyfriend?
Does it Matter?
My father asked if I am gay. I said, Does it matter? He said, No not really. I said, Yes. He said, Get out of my house. I guess it mattered.
My friend asked if I am gay. I said, Does it matter? He said, No not really. I said, Yes. He said, Don’t call me your friend. I guess it mattered.
My boss asked if I am gay. I said, Does it matter? He said, No not really. I said, Yes. He said, You’re fired faggot. I guess it mattered.
My lover asked if I love him. I said, Does it matter? He said, Yes. I told him, I love you. He said, Let me hold you in my arms. For the first time in my life something matters.
My God asked me, Do you love yourself? I said, Does it matter? God said, Yes. I said, How can I love myself? I am gay. God said, That is the way I have made you. Nothing again will ever matter.
-Anonymous
Happy Valentine’s Day from Mideast Piece! Valentine’s Day isn’t as big in the Middle East as it is in Europe and America but we like any holiday that has to do with LOVE!
Bummed that you don’t have a Valentine this year?! Get your ass in gear and check out our Love Guide series. We’ll be posting tips on how to catch and hold on to man that’ll be sure to bring results before this time next year! (It’s pretty good relationship advice all around - even for you love straight folks that read our blog!)
Loving yourself may be easy (and fun) if you look like this. But if you ever want to have a successful relationship you’ll have to really love yourself. It’s cliche I know, but you’re going to be looking for love in all the wrong places until you find it within yourself. Think of yourself as a loving, benevolent parent - not the messed up folks you grew up with. Treat yourself as a good parent would care for their child. Take care of yourself (hit the gym, cut down on the booze, go to bed, get a therapist), talk to friends, and have fun! Love will come. (If it doesn’t at least you’ll be looking great, feeling good, and having fun!)
As gay men we don’t have a lot of good, obvious relationship role models. Relationship role models are those couples who are in relationships you’d like to have yourself. Don’t spend all your time at the bar getting drunk. Hang out with couples in order to learn how they work and to build a support network for you once you’re in a relationship.
The rest of your life starts right now! Be an optimist. There will loads and loads of happiness (and some problems that you’ll be very capable of handling.)
Photo credit: Alan
Wanna find a man for your happy furture? Stop living in the past! Look, if the very idea of another rejection and having to separate your CD collection (Do people still buy CDs anyway?!) after the breakup makes you run for the hills, that’s ok. But feel the fear and go for love anyway. It’s worth it! There’s no reason that just because you’ve had more breakups than (fill in fav hottie Hollywood star name here) that the next relationship won’t work. You’ve gotta get back on the saddle in order to ride up Brokeback Mountain!
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